Identity and relationships are complicated. And that’s okay.
For #KinkOfTheWeek. Partly about anal sex, partly about dysphoria, and partly about ‘problematic’ preferences and kinksRead More »
This piece was inspired by a thread Bex Caputo (who you should follow) started on Twitter, where they asked trans people to talk about our insecurities around sex and dating, as well as by a piece by Red Hot Suz (who you should also follow), where she talked about the desirability politics she faces as a plus sized woman.
I also want to add that this piece is very ranty, and fully based on my personal experiences. My views and experiences do not represent those of all trans men, and should not be expected to, as expecting some kind of a singular transmasc experience is unfair to all of us.
Trigger warnings for rape, sexual assault, transphobia (internalised and external)
I got approval for phalloplasty, and it’s what I’ve wanted for years. So why am I still so scared?